Podcast I am hearing: Brene Brown and Scott Sonenshein
This week my wife recommended that I listen to the above podcast episode. In it, Sonenshein introduces a concept called “stretchy vs chasey”. To “stretch” is to move with courage and determination towards something that brings you true happiness and satisfaction. Conversely, to “chase” is to desire something based only upon socially acceptable cues. Another way of thinking of “chasing” is “keeping up with the Joneses.” In my experience, the only way to ensure that you are focusing your efforts on “stretching” based goals is to get quiet and listen to your intuition. If you find yourself constantly looking at what you don’t have, rather than looking at the blessing you do possess, it might be time for “stretchy vs. chasey” meditation.
Exercise I am using: The Cookie Jar
In David Goggins book “Can’t Hurt Me” he talks about using the “cookie jar” technique when he feels like quitting a difficult task. When Goggins was young, his mother used to stock up a cookie jar constantly. Upon good behavior he would receive one cookie. This was a rare and treasured treat. Accordingly, before eating the cookie he would admire it and then slowly eat every crumb. Savoring every last bite. The “cookie jar” technique is a way to stock up on all of the things that you are most proud of in your life. They could be relationships you have fostered, awards you have won, morals you have upheld or anything else, big or small, that means something special to you. Once you have established this mental list, it becomes easier to remind yourself in the moment that you have accomplished difficult things before and you can do it again. Goggins discusses how finishing something really hard requires second to second decisions to continue fighting. If you have armed yourself with your “cookie jar” filled with reasons why you can continue, then it makes finishing much more likely. This week, write out your “cookie jar” list and get prepared to take on your next challenge!
Mantra I am repeating: “I am content with what I have, little be it, or much.” ~ John Bunyan
This week I have had an overwhelming sense of contentment. This is an uncommon feeling for me as I often seem to always be striving towards progress in some area. That being said, feeling content and yet still working towards your goals at a comfortable pace can be really enjoyable. Maybe it is the October weather in San Diego (my favorite time of year) or my current station in life, but at this moment I seem to be at peace. I hope that this week each of you in the Aligned Life community can find your sense of space and tranquility.
Have a kick ass week everyone!
Dr. Devin Shea, DC